I recently noticed an old friend who I haven’t spoken to in 20 years posted on the status of a current friend on Facebook. I thought about that person for a while. Remembered our friendship and then remembered why we aren’t friends anymore. It’s nothing scandalous our lives weren’t the same and we had different points of views. I was “broken up” with by this person at that time. At first I was stunned and hurt but time heals and you begin to see things in a different light. Actually it was my husband who showed me the different light. He has a remarkable gift for viewing situations in a way that you don’t see them at first.
I think about my friends and family who have been there for me these past 20 years through thick and thin, who lives 15 minutes away and who lives 10 hours away. The phone calls, the visits and the unconditional love I’ve been fortunate to receive. If that person couldn’t stand the heat 20 years ago what makes one think they could have been there for me through the thick and thin of the future. I had no clue what the future would hold for my family and I concerning Thomas. I’m thankful for those that stuck around and even more so for those who had the courage to enter my life when shit got real. When Thomas was hospitalized and we had to make the incredible decision to have him attend residential school for the first time at the young age of 8 years old.
Maybe he/she would’ve been a rock to me. Maybe not. It’s true that in life you find out who is really there for you when things get tough no matter what the situation. You really *know* who has your back when things are unbearable. At the time I was let go as a friend Tommy and I were barely touching the tip of the iceberg with Thomas and his disabilities/late abilities.
I’m glad I have the friends and family currently in my life. I never felt like there was an unfillable gap or hole left by this person. Instead he/she probably opened the door for someone else to come in. God puts people in and out of our lives for a reason and for a season. I guess my season with that person had come to an end and today after all is said and done I can’t imagine my life with that person in it especially after all the ups and downs. I love my present circle of support. Each and every person in it has a reason for being there and I couldn’t imagine it any other way.