I read recently this quote, “Friends are family you pick yourself.” It’s so true. My husband, myself and our children have been very fortunate to know what it’s like to have friends that we’ve picked to be part of our family.
I have a best friend that I’ve known since we were 17 years old. Considering that we both turn 50 this year that’s a long freaking time to know someone. Way back when we were teens we were very close and then our lives took different turns. We lost touch for a little while; until I ran into her mother one evening. Her mom updated me and said I should give my friend a call. I don’t remember who called who first but we reconnected and I’m so glad we did. Due to busy lives (and who isn’t busy these days?) we don’t talk as often as we would like, but when we pick up the phone or text we fill each other in and it’s as if no time has passed at all.
I have a soul sister who lives in Wisconsin and we met when my son was 6 years old. He’s now 23. Seventeen years… unbelievable. We’ve been there for each other even though geographical distance might make that seem impossible; for us it’s a mere inconvenience, something we’ve been able to work around. She supports me and I support her, through the good, the bad and the ugly.
There are also very close friends who my husband and I have known since high school who live nearby. Friends we go to dinner with on a regular basis and those who house and pet sit for us when we go away on vacation. That is not friendship that is family. People you trust to be in your home when you’re not there. A friend who takes a 2 hour car ride with you both ways (and stops to shoe shop on the way back) so you don’t have to go alone because that’s what friends do and that’s how much that friend loves you and you would do the same for them if given the chance. That’s beyond your typical friendship that’s family.
My family has been incredibly blessed. It’s more than what those non blood family members have done for us and us for them. But also the emotional support we give each other unconditionally. The no judgement zone that exists with such relationships. That’s not to say differences of opinions never come up; they do but because you’re family you get over them.
Treasure and pray for all your family members. They’re all in your life for a reason. God places these people in your life to love and to give you even more family than you thought you had.